Dealing With The Extremes: The Grief Of Losing Yourself

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We all had a moment when we had to make a choice, but most of the time, we already know what we want. However, which one is worse? Is it when we need to discern or is it when we have to deal with the extremes? Dealing with the extreme could be the most challenging thing. It is like being trapped in too much love and hate, grand dreams and huge fears, and they’re all happening in your head all at the same time.

 

It is like in a relationship, for instance, marriage. You love that person so much, but then, you have also learned to hate him throughout the time you were together. It’s like living with the person you love and hate the most, and your thoughts are bouncing back and forth on whether you are sticking with the positive or negative emotions you are feeling.

 

Sadly, you can lose yourself along the way, and one of the most unfortunate things that could happen to a person is to grieve for oneself because it is also like giving up and allowing yourself to die in a situation.

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3 Ways You Can Lose Yourself In A Relationship:

  • Sometimes, fear swallows us whole. We fail to recognize that we only have one life and that holding on to something that poisons our existence is a waste of time. For instance, why do you stay in a toxic relationship? Is it because of the time and emotion you have invested, or is it because you are afraid to hurt the other person that you are willing to sacrifice the risk of losing yourself?

 

  • When you are in an uncertain position, you tend to hope for the best, that things will get better. Sure, it will, but the question is when. You get stuck in uncertainty, and you die inside while waiting. When you are in a bad situation, you owe it to yourself to make it better instead of waiting. You are wasting your time. It’s like choosing between happiness and misery. You know which one to pick, all you need to do is have the courage to decide what you think is best for you.

 

  • When you think and hope that the other person loves you, your desire to be with him blinds you that you don’t mind if he sincerely loves you. It is not enough that someone agrees to be with you. He should be committed, and he should know that there are responsibilities that come with being in a relationship, and a few of those is not to letyou get hurt and to help you grow.

 

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It is a tragic thing to let yourself die emotionally and silently grieve while hoping that one day you will be resurrected. Time is something we cannot take back once lost, so dying while in a relationship is something you do to yourself. Instead of living in misery and blaming your partner for it, get out of the relationship and spare yourself of grieving alive.