People have this common misconception that a low self-esteem only occurs in teenage girls or young girls. This is false. A low self-esteem is a common issue that is endured by both men and women of all age groups. Some of these issues might have even begun from an early age and carried forward right up until adulthood.
You’re not alone and there’s nothing to be ashamed of. You can deal with a low self-esteem and start feeling better about yourself.
Some Causes of Low Self-Esteem
There’s a variety of reasons that can cause low self-esteem, but it is vital to determine the root of your problem. By knowing the cause of your problem, you can work on it. Here are a few reasons:
- A divorce or relationship that had a bitter ending.
- Neglect, as a child.
- Abandonment, as a child or adult.
- Unemployment. Sometimes not having any money can leave you feeling low about yourself.
- Abuse. It can be sexual, physical, or emotional abuse either as a child or an adult.
Here are some tips that can help bring your self-esteem back up, where it should be:
Don’t Aim for Perfection
Let’s face it, no one is perfect and no one will ever be, as simple as that. It may be difficult to come to terms with your imperfections but think of it this way – everyone else out there also has their imperfections. No human being is perfect. Most people are just good at hiding it.
Accept Your Failures and Past Mistakes
No one has succeeded at everything they did in life. Failure is a part of life. It’s difficult to accept, but not impossible. There’s no use of crying over spilled milk, it’s not going to benefit you in any way. Rather, learn from your mistakes and failures and move on. Think of it in a positive and healthy manner.
Keep a Journal
Journaling is very therapeutic. You can also express your feelings openly in a journal. This is good for people who can’t express themselves to others or talk about their problems to others. There are different ways to use writing therapy in boosting self-esteem.
Don’t Ever Compare Yourself to Others
The women and people that you see on tv and magazines seem as though they have it all – the perfect body, looks etc. These people are often enhanced and believe it or not, they too have their imperfections. No two people are alike. We are all unique and we have to embrace it and love ourselves with our imperfections.
Find Your Talents
If you have a hobby that you are great in, dedicate more time to it. You’ll start feeling noticeably better. If you don’t have a hobby, then it’s time to start exploring. Try new and different things. You never know what you might enjoy and excel at. A few ideas – horse riding, dance classes, gym, cooking classes, art classes etc.
Surround Yourself with Positive and Supportive People
Avoid people who make you feel worthless and try to bring your self-esteem down, even if it’s your lover. Emotional abuse will only aggravate a low self-esteem. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good and ones whom you enjoy being around.
Help Others Out
A little charity work can actually help you with feeling better about yourself.Plus, others will be grateful to you.
Make a Change in Your Life
Buy yourself new clothes, give yourself a new look. Change your hairstyle or change your appearance. This will make you feel good about yourself physically and mentally. Take up some short study courses. Make the most of your life! More importantly, learn to love yourself. After all, we only live once and we have the luxury of designing our lives. So make the most of it!