The title says “additional” because the previous article featured on this site discussed the 13 Things Your Spouse With Dissociative Identity Disorder Wants You To Know. If you haven’t read that yet, please go to that page first before you continue with this one. This article is a part two and is best grasped when you’ve read the first one.
Anyway, moving on and as promised, here are 13 more things your spouse with DID needs for you to understand. They too want to have a relationship with you, but their disorder is a mess. If you can take in as to why they are acting strange, you may have a loving married life.
Some Factors Can Cause the Switch.
Certain factors can push the switch from one personality to another. Once this factor is identified by the mind, there will be an automatic switch of identities.
They Cannot Avoid The Switch Triggers.
Most of the time, the person cannot avoid the factors that trigger the switch. One of the reasons for that is memory loss.
It’s Often A Subtle Switch.
There are times when the switch takes place without anyone noticing it. It is so subtle that the transition will shock other people. For example, the boisterous alter will come out when the shy identity can’t cope. It will be a strange moment for others.
Other Mental Conditions May Develop.
Dissociative Identity Disorder is related to the development of other mental health issues. People with DID will have a particular perception of themselves due to the reaction of individuals in their environment which can cause depression, anxiety, stress, and more.
No Specific Medication Or Treatment For DID.
There is no specific drug for DID, but there are medications that can help minimize the symptoms.
Psychotherapy Treatment Is Required.
There is only one solution to DID, and that is going through psychotherapy treatment. This treatment is rather expensive compared to other therapies but produces necessary action. Katrina Taylor, LMFT, said that you can get this benefit from going to therapy: “You might discover why you do all sorts of things today—why you say yes to things you don’t want to do, why you sabotage your performance when you can actually succeed, why you dwell on the negative.”
The Point Of Therapy Is Fusing Into One Identity.
The primary objective of psychotherapy is to capsulize all the identities into one to avoid further confusion and inconvenience on the part of the patient.
Pleasing All The Identities Is Difficult.
People with DID struggle to satisfy each of their identities. They need contentment to be able to have a satisfied life. When one of the personalities is not happy, then it causes a problem. “When pleasing others is based in fear of being unloved, it can become habitual and unhealthy.” according to Micki Fine, MEd, LPC.
Living With DID Stigma Gets Lonely.
A person with DID can live a healthy life. However, once people around him get to know about the condition, everything will change. It can be very lonely and can also trigger switches and other issues.
The Switch Is A Way To Get Over The Trauma.
Having DID means suffering from memory loss and manifesting multiple personalities. It helps the person forget the traumatic experience. It becomes his release, and a means to relax. “Being in touch with those feelings is what allows us to do something different in our lives,” says Katrina Taylor, LMFT.
It Is Not About Changing Your Ways And Free Will.
Changing your ways and having DID are two different things. Switching personalities because of DID is unintentional on the person’s part, which is why it’s not about free will.
DID, As An Illness, Doesn’t Define A Person.
Just because a person has Dissociative Identity Disorder, he is less of a human being. This disorder will not define the individual. It may be a part of him, but it is not his only mark in this world.
Live With The Disorder.
People with DID can live semi-normal lives. Their loved ones need to adjust and understand the situation at all times.
Dissociative Identity Disorder may be an illness, but once the person and the people around him get educated on DID, life becomes manageable. A person with DID needs love, acceptance, and understanding. If your spouse has DID, for better or for worse, you have to accept that fact.